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Fear is the Unforgivable Sin
Let's be honest. You have dreams and ambitions for you and your family. You know generally, if not exactly, what you have to do to achieve the goals that you set for yourself but something stops you from taking action.
Fear has immobilized you.
You fear how others will perceive you and what they'll say about you.
You fear the changes you'll have to make in your lifestyle.
You fear the possibility of failure.
Fear is completely natural and usually understandable, but in order to live the live the life and experience the happiness you long for, you cannot let these fears override your your desire for what you know is best for you and your family.
Identifying these fears is the first step in defeating them. Read the following descriptions of commons fears which limit success. Which one is most jeopardizing the potential success you know you’re capable of achieving and deserve?
1. Leaving Your Comfort Zone
You are slowing dying in a comfort zone that is more fragile than you can ever imagine. Compare it to an egg. Only one good thing can happen to an unhatched egg. In order to live you must apply pressure from the inside and leave that shell under your own initiative. I highly advise you force yourself to leave that comfort zone behind now by purposefully creating a better than average life for yourself. You have to choose to either be the chef or the omelette. The later means sitting back in that eggshell comfort zone and patiently wait to be a casualty of someone else's change.
“Progress is a nice word. But change is its motivator and change has its enemies." - Robert F. Kennedy
Change is inevitable and a lot of times it is downright violent and destructive to the status quo. But when it's managed and purposeful it can be gloriously beautiful and inspire not only those close to you, but also an entire revolution that makes a difference in the quality of the world. That revolution starts with someone and that someone can be you.
“Find someone who is willing to share the truth with you." - Jim Rohn
Sadly, in today's American society to point out an opportunity for improvement equates to the average person as "being hated on". It's become cool to be a victim and anyone who points out an avenue to travel in the direction of success is seen as victimizing them even further by challenging that way of thinking. Even the most well meaning, helpful advice is now heard as judgement. Better than average people seek out constructive criticism and embrace the feedback.
“Critical feedback is the breakfast of champions. Defensiveness is the dinner of losers.” –Dharmesh Shah
4. What Other People Think About You
The other side of the criticism coin is worrying about what other people think about you. It’s none of your business. Unless the people whose opinions you’re concerned about are the ones who are in a position and willing to help you achieve your goals then why do you care? It’s silly stupid to spend time and energy trying to be a person who you’re not happy being in the process of trying to make someone else happy. It’s even more stupid to not pursue your goals out of fear of what someone else thinks. The truth of the matter is; no one cares. Yes, everyone has an opinion of you, no matter what you do. But opinions are like buttholes; everyone has one and they’re all full of crap.
People often live lives full of meaningless victories and only do things they are sure they can achieve out of fear of failing at something they really want. Challenges are supposed to push you to or at least close to your limits. Real challenges don't leave you as the same person you were before you attempted to overcome them. You're either broken or better. That's why, in order to grow personally, professionally, spiritually, emotionally, and financially, it's important to take on real challenges that will develop you into a better person.
6. Asking For Help
People who are truly sincere about achieving their goals seek out people who are successful at the things that they don’t know how to do. They find mentors who have achieved the goals that they are working towards to help guide and teach them. This is an area where you cannot allow fear to stop you from doing what is necessary. You cannot be shy, introverted, timid nor too proud to ask someone wiser than you to teach you how to achieve the goals you've set.
It's important to remember that failure can be the most valuable weapon in your arsenal if you embrace it as an opportunity to become wiser and more valuable. Yet most people never even try to succeed out of fear of failure.
But like Will Smith’s character stated in the film After Earth;
What that soliloquy illustrates is the power of emotionalizing. That is the act of imagining how it will feel when you achieve, or don’t achieve your goal.
For most people, fear is an emotion that motivates them to create and achieve goals so insignificant they are practically subconscious. The fear of getting fired, or being homeless is exactly what keeps them diligently showing up to an unsatisfying job where they perform just well enough not to get fired. Paying bills, rent, and putting food on the table - just surviving - becomes the goal.
Emotionalizing what not surviving feels like is what keeps them going. Emotionalizing what it feels like to fail is what keeps most people from ever trying anything new or taking any risks. Whether it be new foods or new careers. We turn up our noses and scowl our faces at the mere thought of trying foods that are untasted but different. They could be disgusting! But they also could be delicious!
What if you focused the power of emotionalizing not on fear, but rather on something good like how achievements and successes would make you feel? How much more would you accomplish if you emotionalized pride? How much bigger and significant would the goals you set be? Chances are they would be better than average.
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I am a simple man who has lived a complicated life. The lessons I've learned from the experiences I've been through and the challenges I've conquered have helped me develop a philosophy that life is meant to be lived at a level better than average.
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